5 Ways to Make Your Wedding Day Unique
This was HUGE in the wedding planning for me. It seemed like anytime I shared an idea that I had, someone would make the comment, “Well you have to do it this way”. Brides – I’m here to tell you, you don’t have to do it any certain way. You don’t have to have the candle lighting, you don’t have to have cake cutting, you don’t HAVE to have someone sing a special song. None of those things are bad, but make the day yours.
I wanted to keep our wedding simple and so I cut out maybe some of the more “traditional aspects” of the wedding ceremony. But I loved it, because it was ours. It showed our love and told our story. And heck, we’re married, that’s all that matters right??
This might be one of my favorite things from my wedding day. My at-the-time fiance and I went shopping for a perfume, picked it out together, but I didn’t wear it until the wedding day. Now, anytime I wear it, it takes us back to that day and it. is. my. FAVORITE. (If you want to know some recommendations – hit me uuuup.)
Hans and I both LOVE music and we wanted to incorporate it as much as we could in our day. For the ceremony, I had my wickedly skilled brother-in-law play his own arrangement of a few of my favorite classic wedding songs on the piano (see I didn’t break EVERY tradition haha). Having him play was so special to me and a way that I could make our wedding day incomparable.
In the weeks leading up to the wedding, everytime Hans and I were in the car together, we would listen to endless songs as we custom-built our own wedding day playlist for the DJ to play during the reception. It was so fun to hear songs that meant something to us instead of just random popular pop songs.
One of my FAVORITE ways we incorporated our music style into the day was by playing a song that was one of our current favs to jam out to – “Coming in Hot” by Lecrae & Andy Mineo. It played as we entered into the reception! Seriously, picking songs particular to us, made the day so special. Now, when any of these songs come on, it takes us back to that day. We still even have our wedding day playlist saved, and yes, I play it on repeat endlessly.
It’s not what you think, we didn’t completely scratch the traditional vows, we just changed them a little bit and added some things. Here’s how ours read:
“In the presence of God and these our friends, I Lydia, take you, Hans, to be my husband. To have and to hold from this day forward for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part. I promise to honor you and submit to you as the church submits to Christ.”
(Hans’ said at the end, I promise to honor you and love you as Christ loves the church)
That little phrase at the end was really powerful for us to add in and to remind ourselves of the purpose of our marriage, we do all these things, because of Christ.
When I first began wedding planning, I wasn’t too high on doing favors. I didn’t want to just hand out some cheesy thing that no one really wants – and especially when they usually cost a LOT of money. I decided to look for ideas that would be uncommon and something that had a little bit of our love story in it. From the day Hans asked me to be his girlfriend, he’s always called me “his honeybear” (that’s still my name in his phone contacts to this day hahah). I grew up on an apiary farm, so I immediately fell in love with the idea of giving away honey in bears for favors. They were a huge hit, people loved them, and it was such a fun, simple way to incorporate our love story into our day.
Don’t try to copy pinterest into your wedding, make your wedding day about your love story.
When you look back on your wedding day, I can guarantee these things will stand out to you. I hope these simple things inspire you to plan the best day ever.